If an economist performs a stupid experiment in the woods and a tree falls and hits him in the head, would the study be deemed worthless? If a man marries and has a baby girl, is he more likely to leave the marriage than if his wife had birthed a boy? The economist in the woods says yes.
There was an article on The Daily Beast yesterday that listed the 15 Ways to Predict Divorce. It’s a nice compilation of random facts and studies. The one that stood out the most was number 6: If you have a daughter, you're nearly 5 percent more likely to divorce than if you have a son.
I don’t necessarily dispute the findings. This is not to say that I agree with the findings. They are bullshit. I do believe that these men spoke to X number of parents and asked X number of questions and their findings lead to the conclusion that there is a gender bias. However, I don’t agree with the conclusion that it is true for the masses of fathers in the world. That is just my opinion. But more importantly, it leaves me wondering, what are we supposed to do with this information?
If I were to believe this "Demand for Sons" and want to have children (assuming that I don’t already) should I go so far as to choose the sex of my child to ensure that my marriage remains intact? I realize I’m taking this idea to the extreme, but the technology regarding sex selection exists and may one day be a widespread practice. Should I really look at having a girl as a detriment to my life? Should I love my life less because I don’t have boys? Absolutely not. And Khary would agree. Having children can be stressful at times, but it has only strengthened our marriage. Just look at him—this is a man that adores his daughters, and our family.
I certainly am not trying to make light of divorce—I’m a child of divorce. Had I been born a boy, would my parents still be together? I can say with complete certainty that it wouldn’t have mattered. I think a child’s gender influences how a family “works” because our house would certainly function differently if we had two boys. But those boys would not bond us together more than we are now. The study mentioned that the “divorce effect” becomes larger as a family increases in size. That seems logical, but what it really means is that the stakes become larger when a family grows. I just don’t think that having a girl or boy factors into the equation with such certainty.
So wave your girl flag and kiss your daddy, because he’s probably not going anywhere. Of course, if you are to believe any of the other 15 predictions, you better beware of smoking, red states, and Americans.
What do you think of the 15 Ways to Predict Divorce? Is there one that popped out for you as an absolute truth or total bullshit?