Khary and I held hands yesterday. This was momentous only because it was the middle of the day, on a Friday. There were no strollers, and no tiny fingers grabbing at our shoulders, or legs kicking to get free from our grasp. We each had two hands free. The girls were in daycare, and we had a movie date.
We try and go out on occasion, but this was different. There was a feeling in the air like we had just snuck down the back path between 3rd and 4th period, and we needed to make the most of our time. We bought popcorn, we made fun of the previews, and we held hands again. The movie, if you’re wondering, was worth it (The Fighter. Christian Bale and Melissa Leo are AMAZING. Mark Wahlberg is Mark Wahlberg).
The real pièce de résistance was our evening meal. We went out as a family for the first time. When we were just a threesome, we ventured out on a semi-regular basis, but Aja has never been kind to restaurants. Or really, she hasn’t been kind to me. I have taken her with me for various work-related breakfast/lunch meetings over the past year and she has always made me regret it. She only wanted to be held. She couldn’t, at that time, sit up straight, and then once she could she still practiced the art of throwing herself backwards at the drop of a breadcrumb. So I stopped trying. But she’s bigger now, and we thought it was time.
We went, we ate, we conquered. Aja ate the crayons, and then anything we put in front of her. She only fussed when there was a break between bites. Jocelyn marveled at the pizza oven and the giant poster of a man covered in tomatoes (I’m assuming from the La Tomatina Festival in Spain). We sipped our drinks and then wrapped up the meal within an hour, just as the girls were about to take a turn to Grouchland.
It’ll be awhile before we can go to a restaurant that doesn’t have its own Kid’s Menu. Not that we used it, but it is a symbol of kid-friendly-ness. Regardless, we really did enjoy ourselves. Khary and I like to imagine how much easier it will be a year from now, when Aja is Jocelyn’s age. Which just means that Jocelyn will also be older. I know that to use the word easier is a mistake on my part, but I’m sticking to it.
Khary and I also plan to hold hands again very soon.