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I think you said that well and you are a good mom for having these thoughts and concerns.


"When we did start dating it was not because of or in spite of the fact that he was black. It was because he was Khary."

That's the key with everything, it should be because of the person, not because of labels or skin color or religion. But the person.
This was such a beautiful piece. Thanks for letting us inside :)


I loved this. Obviously, I can relate. I don't want my child to see me as his/her "white mom." Though the world may see biracial children as black, it is our job to help them find that balance within themselves.

pammy pam

hi! i'm visiting from the lady bloggers tea party. i love your blog post. youre a good mom no matter what color you are. i come from a very mixed family and have learned that it doesnt matter as long as you love them and try to do right by them.

Ms B

Beautiful picture. As Californians we do live in a bubble, a bubble I rather like, but a bubble none-the-less. I am white, my youngest son is black. In so-cal, people hardly ever take a second glance. The assumption is usually that my husband is black, which doesn't happen to be the case, our son is adopted. When we travel it's different. I think you're family is beautiful and the fact that you have genuine concern for your girls and realizing that you can't answer all of their questions puts you way ahead of the game.

Diapers and Wine

Stopping by from SITS...this is a beautiful post. There's no denying that some people will be curious, some will probably just be flat-out jerks, but you will be able to handle anything with that kind of attitude. Thanks for the great read!


I am stopping by from The Red Dress Club. Wonderful post. I lived on the West Coast for 9 years and my children never noticed differences in the families around them. It was normal to have parents from different cultures, countries, religions. I loved it. We now live in CT and when they came home from their first day of school they said was "Everyone looks the same!" They were shocked. Living in a bubble of a diverse area is ok in my book, it teaches your children that there are just families and they come in all different colors, shapes and sizes.

Cheryl Duford

Wearing my red dress today. I'm so glad I did. I love this post.

I have 2 grand-nieces who are biracial. Funny thing is they've never experienced intolerance even in a predominantly white region. They are, however, 2 of the most intolerant kids in the family. That's a reflection of how they were parented. I find that really sad.

I love that you're thinking proactively because the issue will arise. My 2 nieces still bring it up as a discussion point and they're now 10 and 13.

Jessica Anne

Great post! My children are half Asian and this is something I think about too. We live in L.A., so it's non-issue here, but I grew up in the Midwest, so I recognize the bubble. I dread the thought of them encountering what can be out there. I guess my job is to make sure they are secure in themselves and understand tolerance, so they can recognize intolerance and let it go if they need to.


I love your statement, on "b/c he was Khary."

That is wonderful....

Glad to have found you through TRDC.

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